All photo credits: Claire Ryser, Visionaire Studios
In early spring 2010, the most wonderful man in the history of this planet waited willingly (so far as I know) at the end of the aisle and happily said “I will.”
At that moment, I couldn’t help myself. I immediately leaned in towards this wonderful, perfect man…
…and publicly corrected him on his repetition of the pastor’s words.
And so his life with me began.
Pastor Janet: “Repeat: I will; by the grace of God.”
Husband: “I will.”
Me: (Prompting) “…by the grace of God.”
Pastor Janet: (chuckling) “Really? She’s correcting you already?”
Yup, I did that. Let this be my formal, public apology.
In all fairness, Husband had a groomsman who put some serious moves on Pastor Janet after the ceremony – after taking a quick PBR-induced catnap under the library table. I may or may not have earned that moment.
(I’m not mad. Said groomsman was an integral part of what appears in the history books under “BWE” as “Best Wedding Ever.” No love lost.)
Truly, I am blessed beyond comprehension. That moment was one of many unique, sweet, hilarious moments we’ve had together – because he’s not only my best friend, but a great sport who actually finds my ridiculous behavior and semi-frequent lapses in judgment adorable.
I never believed I deserved someone so wonderful; but it turns out – I do. Realizing that? That was quite the lesson.
I truly believe that, like the foods we eat and the clothes we wear, we choose the qualities we invite into our lives. We choose the good that we allow ourselves, whether that’s in the company we keep or the nutrients we consume.
If something’s not lining up the way we wish it would, it’s often because our choices don’t fully reflect what it takes to get what we most desire. I say this with compassion and empathy because I speak from experience. For a long time, I said I wanted a partner of integrity; someone I could fully trust. Yet I wasn’t choosing those qualities. Quite frankly, I probably wasn’t expressing them, either.
In marrying my husband, I deliberately chose integrity, honesty, fun, laughter, motivation, and love; and I chose to deserve those blessings with every step we take together.
I get to make this man happy (and mildly exasperated) for the rest of our lives, and that exercise makes me a better person moment by moment.
Happy public apology/anniversary, Husband! Here’s to a lifetime of adventures.